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Attributing Awkwardness to Homeschooling.

Face it: at some point, everyone does something that’s a little bit socially awkward. But it’s just a part of being human, right? 

I guarantee that if you walked up to any random person on the street, and asked them if they had ever done anything awkward, they would tell you about something that happened to them that very morning, or the day before, or last week, or even something that happend a few years ago that they can’t seem to let go of. 

There’s no problem with being a little awkward! Nothing is wrong with making a mistake or taking a little social misstep here and there, because everyone does it! 

What irritates me is when someone attributes that little bit of perfectly human awkwardness to a person because they are a part of a certain group; namely, I can’t stand it when people stereotype homeschoolers as being awkward or quiet, or attributes their awkwardness or quietness to their being homeschooled.

Over winter break, I had a gentleman from my church comment on my being homeschooled.  At first, he told me that it was a good thing from an education standpoint. I thanked him politely. Then, he for some reason or another felt the need to proceed to tell me how one of the “major shortcomings” of homeschooling is that the child does not learn how to properly communicate with other children. All that is fine, it’s just his opinion. However, he THEN proceeded to inform me of a time when I “showed a lack of social skills,” how he, “saw that trait in me,” in a certain situation.

The situation he referred to, I might add, was on a bad day when kids were picking on me. He felt the need to inform me that, “I shouldn’t have taken it personally,” and reminded me that, “that’s just how kids are,” and, “I don’t understand them because I don’t socialize enough.”  I didn’t take it personally.  I stormed off to avoid punching them in the face, because of their cheap pot-shots; and I was frustrated with myself.  To top it off, I was tired, I hadn’t eaten in hours, I had school stuff on my mind, AND I had found out that my Uncle was having substance abuse issues and my grandmother was in the hospital because of stress. 

I’ll let that sink in for a minute.

Personally, I’m a sensitive person. If someone is crying, I cry with them. If I hear a sad story, I’ll get emotional. I laugh a lot because I like being happy, and sometimes I get quiet and vacant when I’m angry with something.


Of course, in public, I control my emotions. I take a deep breath and stifle my sobs when I’m watching a sad movie, I hastily wipe my tears in a subtle matter when someone is telling a sad story, I use, “My allergies are terrible today!” as an excuse a lot, I refrain from laughing when it’s inappropriate, and I go off to the sidelines to collect myself when I get angry. 

But, of course, as with everyone, there are times when I can’t control my emotions.  Whether it’s because I’m having a rough day, or because I can’t handle any more, or something strikes me off-guard, or something else is going on, or simply because I’m just an imperfect 15-year-old female who is merely a human being. Sometimes my emotions slip; I’ll break down because I get angry or sad, and can’t stop it even if I try.

I’m sure that everyone has had a happenstance like that at some point. Or maybe you haven’t, because you can control your emotions very well, which is a good thing. But that doesn’t make either you or I better or worse as a person. It’s attributed to our personalities, and not necessarily our education or upbringing.

Sure, maybe if I went to public school and was forced to be around people for 8 hours a day, I would be able to control my emotions a little more.  I would have been forced to learn that skill as a young child, and stopped expressing my emotions altogether, or become even more anti-social than I am now.

Because that’s totally healthy and normal for sensitive people, right?

But I wasn’t forced to be around people for 8 hours a day, so I still need to work on controlling my emotions, and that’s just how it is.

You have a problem? Sorry, can’t go back in time and fix that for you. I can only move forward and fix it for myself. 

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    Thank you!!! You just accurately described scenarios in my life❤
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